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For families

A guide for parents and young people

What to expect, from first email to first session.

Most of the worry about therapy lives in the unknown, so we set out the steps plainly. There is no script you have to follow, and nothing you need to prepare.

The steps

Four steps, at your pace

  1. One

    You write to us

    One or two sentences is enough: whatever is prompting the question. Every enquiry is read personally, and we aim to reply within one working day. If yours needs longer than that, we will tell you.

  2. Two

    A short call to think it through

    Free and without obligation, usually 15 to 20 minutes, with our clinical lead or with the therapist most likely to be the right fit. We listen first, then suggest what might help. If we are not the right fit, we will say so and, where we can, suggest where to look instead.

  3. Three

    Matching, consent and the practical details

    If you decide to go ahead, we match your child, or you, with the therapist we believe fits best. For children under 16, a parent with parental responsibility signs a written consent form, which we send you. Young people of 16 and 17 can consent for themselves, and their capacity to do so is considered in line with professional guidance. Where parents pay, we ask for their agreement as well, and parents are involved where the young person agrees. Fees are confirmed in writing, and sessions are arranged at a time that works.

  4. Four

    The first session itself

    The therapist settles your child in and starts where they are. There is no checklist of questions, no pressure to talk, and no expectation that a child arrives ready to discuss anything in particular. Nothing more is asked of a child in a first session than of any child meeting a careful adult for the first time.

A few things you might be wondering

The questions parents ask us most

Where do sessions happen?

For most children, in school during the school day, at schools where KST works. Adolescents and young adults can also meet their therapist online, where that is clinically appropriate. We talk through which setting fits during the first call. If your child’s school is not one we work with yet, tell us which school it is, and we can talk about what might be possible there.

What is the room like?

A quiet, private room that the school sets aside for the work, away from the bustle of the day. For younger children there are simple materials, such as paper, pens and sometimes a few play objects, to use or ignore as they like. Nothing in the room suggests a checklist or a script. The space is there so a child can simply arrive.

What will I be asked?

During the first call: what is prompting the question, what you have noticed, what the school has noticed, what has helped or not helped before, and what you hope for. Nothing more clinical than that. We will not ask for a medical history in the first conversation. If a referral or specialist assessment becomes the right step, we will explain why.

How does confidentiality work?

Therapy with children and young people is held carefully. The detail of what is said in sessions is private to the young person, in line with their age and understanding. For children and younger teenagers, parents are kept informed in broad terms, such as themes, progress and how the work is going, without breaching the young person’s confidence. The exception is when we are worried about a young person’s safety, or someone else’s. Then we follow our Safeguarding Policy, and we talk with the young person and with you wherever it is safe to do so. The detail is in our Safeguarding Policy and Privacy Policy.

Does my child need to want it?

Ideally, yes. Therapy is a collaboration. For very young children, your consent carries the weight; for older children and adolescents, their own willingness matters a great deal. We talk openly with the young person about what therapy is, what it is not, and whether they feel ready.

Is there homework?

Not in the academic sense. Sometimes the young person and the therapist agree something small to try between sessions, and sometimes you and the therapist do. Nothing is imposed. The work is done in the room.

How long does therapy last?

There is no fixed length. Some children come for a term and find that enough; others come for a year or longer. We review with you regularly, and talk openly about when the work has reached a natural ending.

How do fees work?

Fees are discussed during the first call, so we can shape the right arrangement for your family, and confirmed in writing before anything begins. We work in both school-funded and parent-funded settings, and keep reduced-rate places each term for families where cost is the obstacle.

A note from Sam

Most of the families who reach us spent longer than they meant to thinking about whether to write the email. If you are in that place, you are not alone, and you do not need to know what to ask for. The first conversation is exactly for that.

Sam McManus, clinical lead
If this is urgent

Kensington Square Therapy is not a crisis service. If you or your child is in immediate danger, call 999.

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If you need help right now

  1. If you or your child is in immediate danger

    999Call 999

    Go to your nearest A&E24/7

  2. If either you or your child is in a mental health crisis

    NHS 111England, Scotland and Wales: call 111 and choose the mental-health option. Northern Ireland: call Lifeline on 0808 808 8000

    24/7

    Routes to your local NHS mental health crisis line. Northern Ireland has no 111 mental-health route; Lifeline is the crisis line there.

  3. If your child is under 19 and needs to talk to someone themselves

    Childline0800 1111

    24/7

    childline.org.uk

  4. If you are worried that a child is being harmed or is at risk

    NSPCC Helpline0808 800 5000

    help@nspcc.org.ukMon-Fri 10am-4pm by phone; email 11am-4pm, seven days a week. An email sent when the service is closed is not received.

    If the NSPCC service is closed and the concern cannot wait, call the police on 101. You can also contact the child’s local out-of-hours children’s social care, social work or social services team. If a child is in immediate danger, call 999.

    nspcc.org.uk

  5. If you would prefer to text rather than speak

    ShoutText SHOUT to 85258

    24/7

    giveusashout.org

  6. If you or someone you are worried about needs someone to talk to

    Samaritans116 123

    24/7

    samaritans.org

Begin

Begin with a short conversation.

Every enquiry is read personally. We aim to reply within one working day, and the first call commits you to nothing.